Be Mine: Valentine’s Day with a new love interest

by epi on February 14, 2013

Q: What is the proper etiquette regarding Valentine’s Day when you have only been dating a man for three weeks? Would I get him a card or a gift? Or nothing at all?

A: This is always a tricky day for couples who have just begun dating. If your relationship is in incipient stages, you probably ignore the traditional valentine or gift aspect of the day and simply move forward in the development of your relationship unless you can find a card that is fun and not commitment-oriented or romantic, given the brevity of your relationship.

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Alicia February 14, 2013 at 6:55 am

I’d skip the card entirely. Sexist as this is men in general do not care about cards and as such a card would not be appreciated. Skip the sentimental and go for corny. I suggest an activity like take him out bowling or to a gun range or to an indoor climbing wall.


Joanna February 14, 2013 at 1:29 pm

This! In my entire life, I’ve yet to find a man – of any age, ranging from teens to the AARP set – who would want a greeting card of his own volition. It’s always quite the chore for them, of the “Oh geez! It’s Valentine’s Day!! I gotta run to CVS, quick!!!”

I guess it depends on your personal feelings, really. If you’re the kind of person inclined to give gifts, go for something like some chocolate – there’s basically nobody alive who wouldn’t enjoy some sweets. If you’re not, then maybe you can skip the gifts but acknowledge the holiday by suggesting the two of you enjoy dinner somewhere. It doesn’t necessarily have to be anything expensive or out of the norm, just someplace nice that you both enjoy.


Just Laura February 14, 2013 at 11:59 am

A few years ago, I had been seeing a coworker on and off. A few days before Valentine’s Day, he dropped by the office (I was working late), and he asked if I was doing anything. I wasn’t, so he offered to take me to a Broadway show for V-Day. I paid for dinner.

No cards were involved, no concern about gifts – just a good time.


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