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  1. Interviewing

    I have been asked to a ‘second interview’ of sorts. I had a previous connection with the general manager of a company who asked me to an informal lunch interview with him a while back before he opened this manager position to the public. He has since gone through his due diligence in interviewing candidates and has asked me and one other final candidate to come in for what he described as a meet and greet to make sure that whomever he chooses gets along well with the rest of the staff and board memebers. The staff is rather small (6 or so people) and this position will manage one of the current staff members. I asked if I ought bring anything and he said if I’d like to bring a laptop with samples of my past work I could do so.

    Has anyone here conducted an interview like this? I have never applied for a management position before. I will bring my laptop with a few samples 4-5 of my artwork, but other than putting on a smile and trying to find common interest with the rest of the staff I’m not sure what to expect or prepare for. Should I prepare myself with particular questions or answers for the staff? Any advice on how to handle a meet and greet with someone I could potentially be managing (and maybe worth noting, is actually slightly older than me)?

    • Elizabeth

      This question might be more fruitfully asked on a site more geared to job searches…the only thing I can think of is that, yes, you should come armed with questions. I don’t know about all interviews, but the ones in my field tend to have sizing-up on both sides. They are trying to figure out if you are a good fit for them, you are trying to figure out if they’re a good fit for you. So, you come having researched the company and with specific questions about the job you would be doing, office culture, overall goals and mission, etc. Put another way: what is everyone’s favorite subject? Themselves (and by extension, their work, their experiences). So if you show up and just wait to be asked questions, you will be seen as stand-offish and incurious, whereas if you come prepared and are genuinely curious and interested, that will make a much better impression.

  2. Kayla

    My wedding is going to be held at night and is very formal, my mom & I have different opinions on which men in the family should wear a tuxedo. The groom, groomsmen, and my father will all be wearing a tux. Other important men, but ones who do not have a role in the ceremony, include my stepfather, grandfather, my fiance’s father, and his stepfather; do they need to be wearing a tuxedo also?

    • Chocobo

      If your wedding is in the evening, formal, and the groom and groomsmen are in tuxedos, then your dress code is “black tie.” Which means all of the men should be expected to be in evening clothes (a.k.a. tuxedos), including male guests (whether they are important, or not). There is no separation of dress code between the bridal party and the male guests. The only difference is that a male guest can get away with wearing a black suit if they do not already own a tuxedo.

      However, I realize that now it is common for the bridal party to rent the same tuxedos from a rental agency, and you may be asking if your closest male family members who are not standing at the altar should rent the same tuxedo. The answer is no, not necessarily. They should be following the “black tie” dress code like the rest of the men invited to the wedding, but there is no etiquette requirement for them to “match.” (All men who are wearing black tie match anyway — the black coat, black pants, shiny black shoes, and black bow tie leave little room for interpretation.) You may wish to distinguish them as people of importance by seating them prominently and giving them boutonnieres to wear in their lapels.

  3. Brockwest

    Interview: An interview with more than one candidate at the same time is a stress technique. It is important for you to be actively-engaged and knowledgable about the company and position.
    Research what the company has done lately, any campaigns it has been involved in, any articles written by/or about those you are to interview.
    Certainly bring a portfolio of your work. It would be a tad awkward to pass around a laptop.
    Importantly, one of the stress interview questions is likely to be “Why should we hire you instead of Candidate B who is sitting next to you.”
    Your best answer to this is, “If we are both well-qualified, then hopefully you can hire us both. I can only address on what I can bring to your company.” Do not take the opportunity to bash or downgrade the other candidate.
    As in all interviews, do not disparage your present job or boss. If asked why you are leaving, simply state that this job seems to be a wonderful opportunity to match your skills.

  4. Justlikehoney11

    I am hosting my parents’ 25th wedding anniversary party in April and I’m putting together the invitations now. I am inviting only close friends and family mostly because of my budget but also because my extended family and friends live all over the world. I do not want to leave them out though. A friend of mine showed me a card she received from a relative – a birthday card request in honor of an aunt’s 90th birthday. I thought this idea was cute and my question is can I translate this to my parents’ anniversary or would that be improper?

    • Elizabeth

      It is lovely of you to host an anniversary party for your parents, and it sounds like you have invited the right people for the event – close friends and family. I would advise against including other people by asking for cards. A 90th birthday is one thing – it’s amazing to reach that age, and people have known the person for decades. A wedding anniversary seems like something different – it’s something to celebrate personally and with close loved ones, but more distant family are likely to be indifferent (if I’m being honest). Maybe a 50th anniversary would be something to make a big deal about, but for a 25th the scale of celebration you have planned sounds just right.

      Another way to think of it: if you received a letter in the mail asking you to send a card for your cousin’s parents’ 25th anniversary who live on the other side of the world (and hence, who you are not very close with), what would you think about it? If you’re feeling generous, you might think, “oh, that’s sweet.” But you might also think it’s a weird prompt for gifts or acknowledgement that seems a bit beyond the importance of the event. People will not feel “left out” of a celebration like this, since they would never expect to be included in the first place.

    • Alicia

      A 25th anniversary is lovely. A small party in honor is nice. However, as 25th anniversaries are not that uncommon I would view it as an uncomfortable thing if asked to send a card. I would view that as chiding that I had not thought on my own to send a card and sort of self centered both on the couple of honor and the hostess part. I would also wonder if it was really a request for gifts.
      If people send cards let it be of their own warm sentiments not because you prodded it.

  5. justlikehoney11

    Thank you both! I so appreciate your very helpful responses! That’s kind of what I thought. No card requests but invites to our close family and friends it is!

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