Q: How do I handle a neighbor who is always talking about where she or her family were invited and events they attended where our family was not included? I was always taught that you should never talk about a party or event with someone who was not invited. I tried telling her on a couple separate occasions that we were not invited and she need not go into detail and this just revved her up for more. It seems like this woman loves to talk about birthday parties her children attended in front of my child who was not included, or dinners they attended with other couples where my husband and I were not invited. I now try to avoid socializing with them because of this and other boorish behavior, but we do have some friends in common and have children the same age so our paths do cross. Others of us include the whole group when making plans or just keep one-on-one things quiet – I wish she would do the same. Am I being overly sensitive and is there anything I can do to make her stop?
A: No you’re not being overly sensitive. However, it would probably be better to assume that your neighbor doesn’t mean to be rude. Since, in the past, you’ve told her she needn’t go into details about some party or event, it’s unlikely it would do any good to say anything more to her. Therefore, we can only suggest you continue to be polite and try to end such conversations with her as soon as possible.