Q: When addressing envelopes informally, I have always been taught that the woman’s name should appear first, and that one should never ‘separate a man’s name from his last name’. For example, Mr. and Mrs. Don Smith would read Patty and Don Smith, not Don and Patty Smith. Someone has recently tried to correct me. I was wondering what is proper.
A: It is important to remember that it is the woman’s last name, too, so the rule of not separating first from last names has no bearing. It makes no difference whose name is first. Often it is simply a matter of what you are used to saying!