Q: I received a ‘save the date’ wedding announcement from two people that I do not know. I’m not sure why they sent it to me (maybe someone they know shares the same name as mine). I checked out their website to make sure I
didn’t know them, and I’m positive I don’t, or don’t remember. What should I do? Should I send the announcement back and say they have the wrong person? What if I’m supposed to know them and I don’t? I don’t want to embarrass them or myself. Should I wait until I see if I get an invitation?
A: Assuming you also don’t know the couple’s parents in addition to the couple, you should call or send a note explaining that you don’t know anyone from either family and think the card was sent in error. If it turns out, you do know one of the couple or a family member, it is fine to simply say something along the lines of “I didn’t realize the connection. I wish the couple the best but I won’t be able to attend.” In either case, you shouldn’t be sent an invitation since receiving a wedding invitation requires one to send a gift whether or not attending. To do so in either case would appear to be just a request for a gift. Also, by letting the couple know, they may want to invite another guest if they are restricted on the number of guests they can accommodate.
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