Open Thread

by epi on December 13, 2012

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Robyn Dudas January 29, 2013 at 9:33 pm

My fiance’s first wife is deceased. Her parents are very involved in our lives, they introduce me as their future daughter-in-law and consider my children their grandchildren. How do I list them in our wedding program?


Elizabeth January 29, 2013 at 10:07 pm

Who else are you listing and how are you listing them? (is it the processional, etc?)


Pauline Gilbert January 29, 2013 at 10:28 pm

My son lives and is getting married in New Orleans 6/23/13. Is is proper to invite guests you know won’t be able to attend due to financial reasons?


Jody January 30, 2013 at 8:43 am

Pauline — I’d say yes, it’s proper to invite them. You never know, they might be able to attend after all. It’s better to give them the chance to accept or decline, than to make that choice for them and cause ill feelings.
The eldest daughter of some very close neighbors got married several years ago. My sister asked if I’d been invited (I was living several hundred miles from my family) and when I said “no,” my sister asked the bride because the rest of my family had been invited. The bride’s family said “we didn’t invite her because we knew she couldn’t come.” It didn’t bother me, but it bothered the rest of my family and the friendship wasn’t the same after that.


Alicia January 30, 2013 at 8:50 am

It is proper to invite anyone whom it is sincerely wished would attend. Leave it up to them to decide if they can and will attend but absolutely invite those that are sincerely wished to attend. Do not decide for your guests that is the point of the invitation.


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