Snapping at Meals May Lead to Eating Alone.

by epi on November 26, 2012

Q: While out to dinner with another couple, my husband and I were incredibly embarrassed when our friend repeatedly snapped his fingers to get the waiter’s attention. Should we have said something?

A: If other people are present, it’s best to talk to the friend privately so you don’t make him feel bad in front of everyone. You also could ignore the behavior and plan to turn down future dinner invitations from this couple, but they would likely wonder why. Applying humor can help defuse the awkward situation: “Keep up that snapping,Jim, and he’s sure to toss our burgers at us.”

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Brockwest November 26, 2012 at 2:09 pm

Not everyone is even aware of what servers consider proper etiquette. Servers don’t like snapping fingers, whistling and the like. Years ago I got severely chastised by a bartender for whistling in a very noisy crowded bar when I couldn’t get his attention, not knowing it was not considered allowable by servers.
In this circumstance, I think it would be fine to quietly tell your friend that servers have a list of things they don’t like, including snapping and whistling. It’s more of an informative thing than a declaration of etiquette faux pas, so I think it’s proper.
I HAVE been out with a snob with snapped and called “HERE BOY” to the Manager. That time I kept quiet, but went back the next night alone, to apologize for my friend’s behavior and made sure that friend got deleted from my “go-to-dinner” list.


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