Q: My daughter is getting married in July of this year. Her fiance is in the Marines and will be wearing his uniform (navy jacket, white slacks). He will have some of his Marine friends serve as ushers for the ceremony, wearing their uniforms as well. I understand that those in their uniforms will not be wearing boutonnieres because of their medals. The ushers (in uniform) will perform the sword ceremony for the couple as they leave the chapel.
My three questions follow:
First, is it correct that there should be no boutonierres on the groom’s and the usher’s uniform/s because of their medals?
Secondly, the couple wants to put Full Military Dress Optional on the invitation so that guests may wear their uniforms if they have one and choose to do so. Is this also correct wording for it? Full Dress Uniform Invited
Thirdly, if the groom is and ushers are wearing their uniforms, is the wedding considered a military wedding? I think not, but please confirm. If so, what does this mean?
A: Yes, you are correct. Men in uniform do not wear boutonnieres. However, it is not appropriate to indicate on the invitation that guests may wear their uniforms. If they are in active service, they are expected to wear their uniforms. If not, it is not appropriate for those guests to wear their uniforms. Since the sword ceremony will be performed, it would considered a military wedding.
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