1. S. W.

    You are correct in your usage, not in your definition. “Esquire” has a vague connection with the legal profession in the United States, but it is not a professional title.

  2. Kate

    I’m sorry, but I think it is inappropriate for anyone to address a letter as “Mr. and Mrs. Robert Jones”. As a woman, I find it offensive that I would be referred to as Mrs. Husband’s Name. I think your advice is outdated. It should be: “Mr. and Mrs. Robert and Jane Jones”.

    • Elizabeth

      I understand your sentiments, but unfortunately this is still an accepted form of address. The best way to avoid it, I think, is to not take husband’s last name, and go by Ms.

      • Kate

        The purpose of etiquette is to first and foremost make people as comfortable as possible. If there is a chance of making someone feel uncomfortable by addressing them as Mrs. Husband’s Name, even when it’s perfectly avoidable, to me, is not good etiquette.

    • Winifred Rosenburg

      You are right that the personal preferences of the person to whom you are writing should be honored when you are aware of them. However, it is never correct to use “Mrs.” with a woman’s first name. If a woman would not like to be addressed as “Mrs. Robert Jones” the alternative is “Ms. Jane Jones” or with her husband “Mr. Robert Jones and Ms. Jane Jones” or “Ms. Jane Jones and Mr. Robert Jones.”

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