1. Danielle

    This is way more specific than I’ve ever heard rules for this before. IMHO, I hate having “showcased” parent dances. It kills the flow of the whole night. You should definitely make a point to dance with parents at the reception, but why not make sure to do that when the rest of your guests are already up and dancing. That will keep guests from feeling bored. Just make sure your DJ knows how you want it to work out, and your photog knows to look for you to do photos during specific songs.

    • skeptic

      Since YOU haven’t heard of wedding dance etiquette, it must not exist. This is just something a stuffy old woman made up for this article. You definitely wouldn’t want to spend a few minutes honoring your parents – especially if they’re paying for wedding – if it means your little friends might get BORED. Oh the horror.

  2. barb

    At any wedding I have been to, there was a specific “Father-daughter” dance. Not a cut-in.

    I was kind of surprised at one I went to, where the bride asked her sister to do the father-daughter dance as she (the bride) was busy with something else.

  3. Carol

    My son is planning to be married in another state next fall. He would like to have an event here in his home state for friends and family this summer. What would this be called? A “celebration”, “shower?” Not a reception as they won’t be married yet. It just seems awkward to me, but that is what they want.

    • Elizabeth

      It could be either an engagement party or a shower, but one does not typically invite people to these kind of events unless they are to be invited to the wedding itself. People do occasionally hold receptions after their weddings in other locales, but people have varying takes on the propriety of such things. I think you are right – it is awkward (and potentially rude/offensive) to hold a pre-wedding reception for those that didn’t make the cut to the real wedding. Perhaps another conversation with your son is in order. What is the purpose of the event he has in mind? If it is gifts, you must object strongly. If it is to be more inclusive, he should simply invite more people to the wedding.

    • Winifred Rosenburg

      You could call it a party “in honor of the soon-to-be newlyweds” or you could avoid naming it at all and more casually tell people that it’s a party because your son and his fiancee are in town.

    • Alicia

      You only invite people to a prewedding event if they are invited to the wedding.
      Perhaps a generic party not related to the wedding this summer?

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