Unamused Audience: When a toast becomes innapropriate

by epi on October 29, 2012

Q: At your goddaughter’s rehearsal dinner, a tipsy bridesmaid’s toast turns into a funny but potentially inappropriate roast. Do you put a stop to it?

A: Yes. A rehearsal dinner is the place for longer, more intimate toasts, but all topics aren’t fair game. Gauge the audience before you act, making sure your discomfort is shared. The host or you could then politely and congenially take the microphone from the overenthusiastic toaster.

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Country Girl October 29, 2012 at 3:52 am

I think the most important gauge, rather then the audience, would be the bridal couple. They are the ones being “roasted” so it is they who may or may not be embarrassed by the comments and they who set the tone for the rest of their guests’ comfort. If bride and groom are enjoying/laughing at the toast, then that is really all that matters.

If bride and groom appear to be growing uncomfortable or do not seem to be enjoying the toast, I think maid of honor/best man/host(s) are the only ones who should be in charge of taking the microphone. As a guest, you might quietly voice your concern to one of the above , but a guest stepping in to take the microphone could potentially be seen as inappropriate, or worst case even a little hostile. A moh, best man, or host on the other hand can easily step in to transition the flow of the toasts “Thank you so much Lizzy. We’ve got quite a few toasts to go, so I’d like to now introduce the groom’s father Bill.” (or end them all together “Let’s have a hand for Lizzy and raise our glasses for one last toast to the couple before desert is served.”)


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