Q: I need to host a bachelorette party as one my maid of honor duties. However, the bride and the wedding are in Montana and I live in Alaska. I will be doing all my planning from Alaska and have limited resources in Montana. I have made reservations at a restaurant that specializes in wine. The guest list will be around 20 people. Guests would be able to order from the menu or I can pre-order wine and cheese, etc. which would run about 20 dollars per person. I am not able to front a +$400 dollar bill and the wedding party (including myself) has already organized and paid for a trip to Las Vegas for the bridal party. My question is . . . is there a polite way to invite guests so they are aware that dinner and drinks will not be provided? Or is the whole idea rude? I don’t have a location to host the party myself or the time to prepare food, etc. I will be arriving 4 hours before the party.
A: It is traditional for guests at a bachelorette party, with the exception of the bride, to pay their own refreshments. Therefore, it would be fine include the price on the invitations. For example, the invitation might read: A bachelorette party for Ann will be held at Restaurant X on May 6 at 7:00 p.m. It will be about $20 per person. Hope you can come. RSVP xxx-xxx-xxxx. It should be noted, however, that the bridal party is not obligated to host a bachelorette party. It’s their choice.
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