Q: A dear friend has asked me to be her maid of honor. I am thrilled and have accepted. I want to make sure that I do a great job and help make her big day and memorable as possible. What are the responsibilities of a maid of honor?
A: A maid/matron of honor may help the bride in as many ways as she can. This may include taking responsibility for dress fittings, attending as many prenuptial events as possible, possibly co-hosting a party or shower (not mandatory), assisting the bride with errands, contributing to the bridesmaids’ gift to the bride, usually giving an individual gift to the couple, arriving at the dressing site promptly, possibly participating in the receiving line, dancing with ushers and single male guests, helping gather guests for the first dance, cake cutting, and bouquet toss, looking after elderly relatives or friends, and paying for her dress and transportation to the wedding city. The bride is responsible for paying for her lodging. She also signs any legal papers as a witness, helps the bride change if she is “going away” from the reception, and can even assist with organizing gifts, addressing invitations, and shopping with the bride. It all depends on your proximity to the bride and the amount of time you have. The most important duty is to be a best friend to be wholly supportive of the bride on the day of the wedding, from the moment she wakes up to the time she leaves for her honeymoon. The second most important duty is to be sure the bridesmaids are where they should be and that they are organized and ready to do their own jobs.
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