Q: I always get confused with a revolving door. Should I go first or should I wait for the woman I am with to go first?
A: I like to think of the issue in terms of safety: If we are going from inside a building to the outside, I prefer to go first; outside to in, I let her go first. However, regardless of the situation, communicate your intentions. If you’re not sure what she would prefer to do, as you approach the door, ask, “Mary, would you like me to get the door for you?” If she says yes, then you should go ahead and move through first. If she says no, then you know to let her go ahead first. Problem solved. By the way, this same advice holds true for holding chairs at a meal, opening any door, or holding her coat for her. Ask her rather than tell her. Now you can focus on conversation rather than worrying about what to do.