Q: My husband and I were just ‘disinvited’ from a wedding because we didn’t send in our RSVPs on time. It’s true that we were a week late, but still 3 weeks before the wedding. However, my husband had told the father of the bride (his friend) before the RSVP deadline that we would be coming. It was he who got the task of calling and telling my husband that he’s very sorry, but everything was fixed, the seating arrangements and all, and nothing could be changed, says the couple. My husband and I were just married a year ago and ironically, this very friend of my husband’s, who he’s known for 20 years mind you, kept vacilating on his attendence at our wedding literally up until a few days before the event. But we didn’t make a big deal of it because I figured there would be last minute acceptances and, more importantly, cancellations, no-shows. Such is life and we were prepared. Not too mention, that me and family members called RSVP stragglers around the deadline time, which admittedly was an inconvenience for me but again, its’ just how things and people are. In my estimation this ‘disinvitation’ is so grossly tacky and rude. Have you heard of this happening? What’s your opinion please?
P.S. Of course, the friendship is basically over and the wedding present
will not be sent.
A: Your P.S. says it all. This is obviously a situation with a very controlling and anxious bride and mom behind it. It isn’t personal, of course, but it is offensive to you. How lucky for you that you were flexible enough to cope with every situation and emergency. How sad for them that they are not.
This post is brought to you by Photobook Press. Take a look at the new line of Emily Post Wedding Photobooks. FINE CUSTOM PHOTOBOOKS