Sweaty Salutations: Grossed out by a goodbye

by epi on August 10, 2012

Q: At our summer barbecue, my neighbor got really sweaty playing Frisbee, but still leaned in for a goodbye hug before leaving.  Must I hug him back?

A: Stick out your hand for a shake.  But if he’s a good friend whom you usually hug, you may embarrass him by refusing his embrace.  You could try a quick hug.  What’s a little sweat between friends?

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Winifred Rosenburg August 10, 2012 at 8:33 am

My husband isn’t a fan of hugs. He doesn’t want to hurt people’s feelings by not letting them hug him though so what he does is turn sort of sideways to the person and give him or her a one-armed hug. This minimizes torso contact and might be useful in situations like this.


Joanna August 13, 2012 at 9:37 am

I’m sure the friend was well aware of being sweaty! You’d think he might have simply said something prior to leaning in, i.e. “Leaving already? I really wanted to give you a hug, but I’m all sweaty!” That would serve to both convey the intent of wanting to give a closer goodbye, even in the event that it wasn’t actually given, and also give the recipient the choice of either saying, “Oh, that’s ok, what’s a little sweat?” or else “Oh, that’s ok, I know you would if you could.”


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