Q: My 26 year old daughter got engaged 4 months ago. They set their wedding date for 10 months from now. They are planning a very large wedding, thus a year was needed. My second daughter, who is 24, has been dating her boyfriend for almost 3 years and they both finish school this year. They became engaged yesterday and want to get married in 4 months, which is earlier than my oldest daughter’s wedding date. This is a good time for them and they don’t want to live together, etc prior to marriage, so it important for them to get married soon. Daughter #1 is furious, saying that her sister is ruining her wedding and she is extremely upset that her sister is getting married before her. In your opinion, what do families do when this happens? Is it rude for the younger sister to ‘cut in’ and get married during this period knowing her sister had her date picked out already?
A: There is no “rule” that states that the sibling who announces his or her engagement first should be married first. It’s fine for your younger daughter to get married first. Her getting married seven months before her sister shouldn’t ruin your older daughter’s wedding.
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