Q: My best friend is getting married, and I am one of her bridesmaids. I am co-hosting her upcoming bridal shower and also her bachelorette party. I had a horrible falling out with one of our mutual friends a few months ago, and we are no longer friends or talking. I now do not feel comfortable being around this person, much less inviting this person to the pre-wedding festivities that I will be hosting and paying for. The bride is okay with her not bring invited to the bridal shower which will be at my house, but still would like her to be invited to the bachelorette party that I will be giving.
What is the best way for me to handle this? Is it rude for me to tell the
bride that I just can’t invite this person? Or is my only option to go
along with the bride’s wishes? I am writing because I am very worried over
what to do; I feel that if this person comes to the bachelorette party, I
will be overwhelmed by her, and unable to even stay with the party I’m
A: If you were the only one hosting the bachelorette party, it could be argued that the it’s your decision whether or not to invite the friend you had a falling out with. However, since you are co-hosting the party and the bride would like her to be invited, it would be best to include her. Since you are not the only hostess and given the circumstances, you should be polite but should not be expected to socialize with her. This is only a suggestion and is a matter that hopefully you and the bride and the other co-hosts can resolve.
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