Q: A good friend has recently asked me to serve in her upcoming wedding. I would love to participate. However, I am a bit uncertain since this will be the second bridesmaid dress I have purchased. Her first wedding was called off one month prior, and each bridesmaid was not reimbursed. Only instead, we were told that she would use them in her next wedding…(yeah right). Now, I am the only old bridesmaid asked to serve this time around. I am quite honored, but do not have a money tree in my backyard. I do not want to hurt the bride’s feelings and take away from her excitement. She was kind enough to serve in my wedding 5 years ago. I have subtly hinted, but do not feel like I should have to pay for a second dress. I find myself in unfamiliar territory. What should I do?
A: Unfortunately, there is no “right” answer. You may be honest with your friend but you don’t want to come across as being miserly and there is a risk, as you said, of hurting her feelings. Although it would be thoughtful for the bride to offer to pay for your dress in part or in full, she is not obligated to do so. Therefore, it’s your decision.
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