1. Kristin

    When I get married this November, I’ll be switching from my very common last name to my husband’s very uncommon surname. Its pronunciation is different than how the name appears, so I am preparing for the brand new experience of having my name flubbed! I am contemplating the addition of a phonetic spelling next to my work e-mail signature to assist colleagues in the transition and, honestly, to cut down on correcting people in person. But, I am worried the signature could be interpretted as rude. I want to help people avoid the embarrassment of uncertain pronunciation, but I don’t want to seem pushy! Is there an etiquette rule that could provide some guidance? Thank you!

    • Alicia

      Honestly I would prefer a correction in person. I would be more likely to mess up and become convinced my mess up was correct if it was done in a phonetic spelling. It is not wierd or uncommon to deal with mispronouncing names. My last name is commonly mis-said. Relax about it and instead make a point of saying your new name around people. Ie when they ask about your upcomming marriage say things like “I’m so looking forward to becoming Mrs Huckerburgleisa” That way by the time your wedding rolls around they will have already heard the name several times and they will not be confused by the spelling having heard it verbally.

      • I totally agree. A girlfriend of mine married into the name “Gobble.” Apparently it is pronounced “Go-bull” rather than the noise we think of turkeys making. All she does is quickly correct others, and move on with the conversation. “Actually, it’s Go-bull. So what were you saying about the softball game?”

  2. scott

    your order in a restaurant is brought to you, with part of order, sides, in little bowls. Can you pour food onto plate or eat out of bowls?

    • Chocobo

      Personally I see the little side bowls as personal serving dishes, rather than dishes to eat from, which is not only confusing but clutters your eating area. Serve yourself out of the little bowls onto your plate. Maybe with enough little dishes stacking up on the table, the restaurant will get the point that they should serve everything on the same plate.

    • Elizabeth

      I have seen this occur when the main dish takes up a lot of real estate on the plate, or when they don’t want to overcrowd the main plate. For instance, with prime rib this happens especially often, because you have to cut the thing up, which would be made even more difficult if it were crowded with mashed potatoes and vegetable. I think you can feel free to do either – eat from the little bowls or serve yourself from them on to your main plate. Some cuisines, like Korean food, often serve little starters in tiny bowls, bringing each person 4-6 of them. In this case, you should definitely eat out of the bowls, as they usually don’t give you an additional plate.

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