1. Carol Davis

    Hi..Could you please tell me how to answer this a nice way. In my neighborhood. People I’ve never met before just come up to me and ask where do I live. It’s a constant thing. I feel that it is extremely rude to approach someone that way.
    I feel that it is so rude and poor manners, if you have not been engaged in a conversation or if a proper introduction of names has not occurred. It’s never preceded by an exchange or names or conversation. Just..”.Where do you live.?” Men do it too? Being a women..I’ll never tell. The approach can be with a smile, but it’s always the very first question. I don’t think the questions should come in that order. I work with the public and don’t want to be to harsh with people I may see later on publicly. Sometimes I just say within the city. What would be a polite way for me to handle this question and not come off as being rude?

    • Elizabeth

      You’re describing a very curious and strange phenomenon. You could reply with “Why do you ask?” I can imagine you would really like to know the answer – why do they ask?? Do you think they see you as an outsider to the neighborhood? Is it mostly older people who are just trying to start a conversation? Is it a really close-knit neighborhood, and are they trying to ascertain if you’re new or just visiting?

      If the person seems friendly and balanced, you might counter with “You know, a lot of people have been asking me that lately. Why is that??” Or you could just say, “Around here, why?”

  2. Pam

    I work the public as well, about 25 minutes from town. I don’t get asked as much as you seem to be, but when I am asked I always tell them that I live in the bigger town next to mine. But usually when I am .asked it makes sense within the conversation.

  3. Lori Cavallaro

    My mother has bought a one shoulder dress to wear to my daughter’s wedding. It does not have a low neckline and goes to her knee. She is rethinking this as inappropriate.
    Looking for comments.

    • Elizabeth

      I depends a bit on the kind of wedding it is. If this is a morning wedding or weekday afternoon, it sounds like a bit much. But if it’s your Friday or Saturday evening wedding with dinner and dancing, it sounds like a perfectly fine dress to wear. If she is concerned about showing too much skin during the ceremony, she can always wear a wrap or shawl on top.

      I was my sister’s only bridesmaid, and she actually tried to get me to wear a dress much like you’re describing. Unfortunately, I cannot pull off such a style. But if it looks good (and it sounds modest enough), why not go for it? My mom wore a strapless to my wedding, and she looked great.

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