1. scdeb

    Chewing gum might not be acceptable in those instances but I have two problems with this: One is that two wrongs don’t make a right–correcting an adult in a public situation is not acceptable (even if it was meant as a joke) and making a comment such as that in the middle of a wedding ceremony is also not respectful.
    Two, there are people who feel the need to cough in churches (not in this case) and during concerts and classes and other places where coughing would ruin everyone’s experience–chewing gum in a manner that would cause no one to take notice is often a solution.
    Sometimes in an effort to enforce proper ettiquette one tends to forget that the comment they intend to make might also be in poor taste. In this case any comments might have waited until there was a private moment & with adults if there is a ensuing disscussion it might be wise to just let it go. Another kinder way to get the point across might be to bring it up in a group as a discussion–just a thought.

  2. Dear Emily,

    I do agree with your Answer about the “rules” of gum. It is and always will remain a very rude and impolite manner to chew gum in public, like a ruminating cow. A reply from such a person that it is perfectly acceptable these days is a cheap shot, only an excuse and not based on the truth. It is like change, that makes a lot of noise weather the paper bills you will not hear…
    Especially during a wedding and at Church it demonstrates a complete lack of respect. In general, the younger generations have removed themselves from high morals and ethics and it is evident in society.
    As a nation we could learn a lot from a country like Singapore as it is clean and neat looking and they had a ban on chewing gum. During the time we were international consultants, my husband and I loved to travel to and within Singapore.
    Just the other day when loading my car at Trader Joe’s I stepped on such a chewing gum ‘germ-ball’ that was left there by someone thinking this is perfectly acceptable these days…
    Thanks for these posts; keep them coming!

  3. john clubine

    One word which I often remember when it
    comes to manners is “Altruism” which is defined as” unselfishness; an unselfish devotion to the interests and welfare of others.”
    When I see the unacceptable behaviour displayed on buses, asking personal questions like “How much did that cost?”
    “What did you pay for that house?”, “What
    is your salary?” “How old are you?” (to an
    older person), “Are you married?”. Interrupting a private conversation between
    2 persons, and taking all day when a lecturer
    asks “Are there any questions?” and the questioner spends about 10 minutes pontificating before getting around to forming his/her words into a form of a
    question. And of course never considers
    that there are others around him/her who
    would like to ask a question.

    John Clubine
    (Reform Baptist)
    Etobicoke, Ontario

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