Q: My husband and I have been married just under two years. We were both widowed and feel very blessed to shared our lives. My stepson is getting married in another state in May. As a stepmother, I am unsure of my role before and during the wedding. Also….the mother of the bride has told me she is wearing navy blue. The attendants are wearing stem green/cream dresses. This is a formal daytime wedding. Should I also wear navy blue? I’m not sure if that would be considered copying or blending. Navy is not a good color for me, but my best color, red, is not appropriate.
A: As stepmother, you are your husband’s wife and fill in as mom wherever appropriate. You are seated with your husband in the front row or pew during the ceremony, you are seated with him at the reception. You would be included in some photos, but would also make sure there are some photos of just your husband with the groom and/or bride and groom. You offer assistance in any way you can before the wedding, and participate in all events traditionally conducted by the groom and his family, including hosting a rehearsal dinner if that is in your plans. You would not wear the same color as the bride’s mother, nor as the attendants, but rather a color that is flattering to you and different from what they are wearing. While it is not inappropriate to wear red some people do see that as a problem so it is probably best not to consider it. Think about pastels, other shades of blue or green if flattering. . .just not white, cream or black, and definitely not the same color as the bride’s mother is wearing.
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