Q: I have four teen children in my household. How do I get them to help out with household chores? It is so hard to get them to do anything.
A: Have a family council and talk about the work involved in keeping a household running efficiently. Tell them you expect them to help out, since you all live there and all appreciate the benefits of having a nice home. As them what particular task they would prefer to do, giving a list of those things with which you need help, and then explain that they need to accomplish that task during the week. You do not pay them for helping, any more than they pay you for washing their clothes or cooking, etc. It is a cooperative effort. If they don’t select a task to make their own, then suggest a work chart that will be posted every weekend – and that they have the week to accomplish their assignments. They need to understand that they have a responsibility to participate in the life of the household – you are not the hired maid nor is it your “job” to clean up after them every day. It’s their job, too!