1. Elizabeth

    This is the kind of things I would address with humor:

    “Gee, is it getting hot in here??”
    “For a minute I thought we had a couple of hormonal teenagers staying with us!”
    “Lordy, will you two get a room?”

    This only works if they are being mildly inappropriate. For something truly inappropriate, I would just leave the room. When they asked later where I went, I would say, “it looked like you two needed privacy. But in the future, would you mind retiring to your room for that kind of thing?”

    • Elizabeth

      You don’t ‘invite’, you ‘organize’. When you organize, you are not the ‘host’ who is expected to pay. A good organizer is upfront about the possible costs: “Dear Friends, a number of us are getting together to celebrate Jenny’s promotion. We’re going to meet at Chez Laurence at 8pm Friday. Please let me know if you can join us, so I can make the reservation. FYI: Entrees go for $15-$24.”

  2. Susan

    I have found that even when people know they have to pay, the organizer usually ends up to be the one who figures out what each person owes (including tip) at the end of the evening. The restaurant doesn’t want to provide a number of separate bills. If it’s “just the girls” for lunch we generally just split the bill evenly because there isn’t much of a price difference. Dinner and drinks, however, can make a substantial difference in each person’s bill.

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