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by epi on May 29, 2012

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Winifred Rosenburg May 29, 2012 at 9:34 am

What is the correct way to acknowledge a close family member or friend’s birthday? I was having a discussion with a friend, and we agreed a Facebook post didn’t seem like enough and a phone call, text, or email was preferable. We thought Facebook posts were fine for people we aren’t close with whom we don’t really expect to remember our birthday at all, but for close friends and family we thought it’s not ideal for them to use a mode of communication that implies they wouldn’t have remembered if Facebook hadn’t reminded them. What are your thoughts?


Jody May 29, 2012 at 11:14 am

I think it depends on the relationship you have with the friend/family member. For example, I send cards/gifts to my sisters and their families, but I also post greetings on their Facebook pages. I have several friends where we communicate electronically (never by regular mail) and they always get e-mail greetings.

I for one appreciate any and all birthday greetings, no matter how they’re sent.


Fran May 29, 2012 at 10:50 am

I agree with you that Facebook seems rather impersonal and that I would prefer a more personal phone call, text, email, or good old-fashioned snail-mail card. I think this is a situation where you should do use whatever method of greeting you prefer for a particular relationship and hope there is reciprocation of method, but remember that any greeting is better than none and that no offense is intended.


Alicia May 29, 2012 at 11:05 am

I kinda think the idea that as friends we need to do anything to celebrate adult birthdays is a bit much. I guess if you know it matters to your friends but it makes me uncomfortable when people wish me happy birthday as an adult I kinda think keeping these things for kids and milestones 75,80,90,100 ( any year post 100) is better.


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