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by epi on April 19, 2012

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Eileen April 19, 2012 at 7:53 pm

If a person is asked to bring a dish to a party, is it appropriate to arrive not with an assembled dish, but all the ingredients, and then proceed to use the host’s kitchen, utensils, and serverware to cook or assemble the dish?


Chocobo April 19, 2012 at 8:46 pm

No, it wouldn’t be appropriate to arrive and presume to make use of the host’s kitchen without their consent. One should check with the host first before making any plans, even if it just needs reheating in the oven. They may have plans to use their kitchen and utensils — or someone else does.


Jody April 20, 2012 at 9:44 am

I agree with Chocobo — it is especially not polite to assemble or cook one’s dish in th host’s kitchen. If you’re asked to bring a dish that requires assembly before serving (for example, a tossed salad), you should say something like “I’d be glad to, but the problem is that I need to assemble it right before serving.” That gives the host the chance to either say “no problem you can use my kitchen” or “thanks for the info, let’s think of something else.”

When I bring a hot dish to a dinner, I use a trick my mom gave me. I time things so I take my dish out of the oven right before I leave. I wrap my dish in several layers of newspaper. That keeps my dish hot for some time, and I don’t need to use the host’s oven to reheat it.



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