Q: I love hosting my extended family for Easter, but my in-laws always bring their high-maintenance dog. May I tell them that their pooch is not on the guest list this year?
A: Of course! It’s presumptuous of any guest to assume he or she can bring along another visitor, especially a four-legged one. Try saying, “We all love Pepper, but having him underfoot is too much commotion. Sorry, but we can’t host him this year. If you’re unable to put Pepper in a kennel there, I can get a reservation for him at the one here.” If this is a deal breaker, perhaps you and your husband can go to their house for Easter instead.