Q: I recently wore a white linen suit to an outdoor wedding. The wedding colors were purple and black, with the bridesmaids in black. The bride, after the wedding, told me it was poor taste on my part to wear white to her wedding. I thought the rule was outdated, especially with black as an acceptable color for guests and bridesmaids.
A: You are right. Wearing white — or black — to a wedding is off the taboo list. These days its simply a question of style. Plenty of women wear black dresses to formal evening weddings, and black is a popular color for bridesmaids’ dresses. The same goes for wearing white, as long as you couldn’t be mistaken for the bride. And while it’s been the tradition for the past 150 years or so, there’s no rule that says the bride has to wear white either. What really misses the boat is being told you committed a faux pas. That privilege belongs only to very close friends or relatives who have (one hopes) your best interests at heart. While you may be miffed by the bride’s comment, try to chalk it up to a bride who has had too much wedding aftermath going on. If she is a good friend of yours and you want to move forward with your relationship, put the comment behind you. Or if you feel comfortable saying something, you might tell her that you had a ball at her wedding, that she looked beautiful, and that, by the way, it is O.K. to wear white to a wedding these days. Times (and traditions) change.
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