1. Ruth Ann Wagner

    My pastor and her husband both have the same last name. He is an attorney and she is, as I said, a pastor. Do address an envelope to the two of them as Mr. Samuel Jones and Rev. Rebecca Jones? What is the proper way to addres an envelope to them?

    • Ruth Peltier

      Just do not do what some people did for me and my husband (God rest his soul) In our denomination people call often call the pastor Brother (first name) which often resulted in mail addressed Brother Karl and Mrs Peltier. My position, which I usually did not articulate to anyone but my husband, was that if he was “brother” I should have been “sister”.

  2. Anna Allen

    My husband and I have been married for 8 years. His granddaughter has asked him to give her away as her father is deceased. I am told that my husband will sit at the end of the first row, the bride’s mother, bride’s grandmother (my husband’s ex), the brides two aunts (my husband’s daughters) and their spouses will complete the row. I am to sit behind my husband in the second row. Am I overreacting by feeling slighted?

    • Winifred Rosenburg

      I understand why you would rather sit next to your husband, but sitting right behind him you will still be close enough to hold hands and you will get a coveted aisle seat for the ceremony! It really doesn’t seem worth bothering a bride and groom who have most likely been receiving all sorts of silly complaints that yours will be lumped with.

      • Katie K

        Anna, Yes, the current plan seems thoughtless but as Winifred suggests, try to remain gracious and refrain from giving the “other side” of the family anything to complain about. What would your husband think of just joining you in the second row? If he likes the idea, let him be the one to suggest it.

        In any case, no one except you will remember where you were seated during the ceremony, but everyone will remember whether you were cheerful and cooperative. Good luck!

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