Q: Our neighbor’s children frequently play with our granddaughter at our house – ages 6 and 7. They are very assertive about going to our freezer and refrigerator and cupboards and asking for food – many times a specific food and/or drink. I feel this is inappropriate. Am I wrong?
A: No, you are not wrong. One way to manage this behavior would be to say, “it will be snack time soon, so you go back and play now and we’ll call you when it’s ready.” If you have already had snack time and they persist, it is fine to say, “I’m sorry you are so hungry, but since we’ve already had a snack you had probably better go home and ask your mom for something else, to make sure it is okay with her and so she can give you what she would like you to have.”