Q: We are planning on having a swimming pool installed in our backyard. We are anticipating that kids (and perhaps some adults) may become more friendly and look for invitations to come swim. We want to be generally friendly, but what is the proper etiquette as a pool owner when kids (or adults) stop by and ask to go swimming with us (and we want to say ‘no’)?
A: You may tell your neighbors, friends, relatives, etc. that you want to be friendly but that you have a “rule” – swimming is by invitation only and ask for their cooperation and understanding. If someone still stops by and asks, you may simply say you rather they wouldn’t. You don’t owe them an explanation.