Q: I’m holding a surprise birthday dinner next month for my husband at our favorite restaurant. I invited three other couples — am I expected to foot the entire bill, or is it OK to ask everyone to split it?
A: When you’re the host, you pay the bill. Since you’ve already invited the others to this birthday party, expect to pick up the tab for this. Next time, try this: “Hi, Erik. Would you and Jess like to meet us at Delicious Restaurant on Saturday night? The Hillards are joining us, too.” This way, it will be clear that you’re the coordinator, not the host, and each couple will expect to pay for their own meals.