A: Many brides who elect to have adults only weddings never think about the impossibility of parents from out of town being able to bring a child to the ceremony and then have any sort of responsible child care for them. It is of course impossible for you to arrange for this, not knowing anyone you could hire as a child caregiver. When the child is in the wedding party and then excluded from the majority of the reception, you are in the same bind with no one who can assume responsibility for your child. If this is the case and it is simply impossible, you will have to send your regrets, even if the child is being counted on as an attendant. You apparently didn’t know he/she would be excluded or you might not have accepted the invitation for her/him to be in the wedding. The alternative is to tell the bride that you can’t be there unless she can screen and vet a responsible babysitter who can take care of your child for you can hardly leave a child alone in a hotel room!
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