Q: When you are invited to somebody’s home for the first time, which is most appropriate?
(1) Wait for an invitation to ‘tour’ the home.
(2) Ask to be taken on a tour of the home.
As a child, I was always taught to wait for an invitation and not invite oneself. That viewpoint has caused hurt feelings with family and friends twice this year. Am I wrong?
A: No, you’re not wrong. A guest invited to the host’s home should not expect to be given a tour of the home unless it is a housewarming party. If this is not the case, the host is under no obligation to give a tour. However, it is not unusual for a guest to compliment the host on the home. In this case, the host may simply thank the guest for the compliment and/or offer to give a tour of the home or to mention any renovations, redecorating, etc. that has been done.