Host Homes: To tour or not to tour?

by epi on January 30, 2012

Q: When you are invited to somebody’s home for the first time, which is most appropriate?

(1) Wait for an invitation to ‘tour’ the home.

(2) Ask to be taken on a tour of the home.

As a child, I was always taught to wait for an invitation and not invite oneself. That viewpoint has caused hurt feelings with family and friends twice this year. Am I wrong?

A: No, you’re not wrong. A guest invited to the host’s home should not expect to be given a tour of the home unless it is a housewarming party. If this is not the case, the host is under no obligation to give a tour. However, it is not unusual for a guest to compliment the host on the home. In this case, the host may simply thank the guest for the compliment and/or offer to give a tour of the home or to mention any renovations, redecorating, etc. that has been done.

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Katrina February 1, 2012 at 4:31 pm

You wait until your host “offers” the tour. You are after all a “guest” in their home.


Heather February 1, 2012 at 6:22 pm

Definitely please don’t ask for a tour! Generally, when I have people over, I make the house spic-and-span first. However, there have definitely been times when the only rooms that are presentable are the living room, bathroom, and kitchen. I’d be mortified if someone asked for a tour and ended up seeing the dirty laundry on the bedroom floor.


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