Q: Yesterday we received a wedding invitation from my friend from high school. On the RSVP we have to check either a chicken or steak entrée, but my husband and I are both vegetarians. Do I write on the RSVP that we are vegetarians and ask if a vegetarian option is available? I’m sure they would honor our request, I just don’t know if our request is rude.
A: How nice of you to show such concern about the appropriate response to your friend’s wedding invitation. It may be best for you and your husband to select from the two options provided, and then, at the reception, quietly ask your server whether there is a vegetarian option, or if you could have your dinner with extra vegetables and no meat. If not, be gracious in accepting the meal you ordered and eat what you can. It seems the most important thing in this case is to avoid causing stress prior to or on the day of the wedding. The bride’s and groom’s chosen menu is clear, and it would be best to order from it.
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