Q: What is the appropriate way to break up with your hairdresser? I have been using the same hairdresser for 6 years, but I’m not happy with my hair. I keep giving feedback, asking for advice or suggesting new things – and I’m just not willing to do it any more. The big problem is that I feel almost emotionally committed to my hairdresser. We talk about our personal lives, etc. when I go for my appointments, so I can’t just stop showing up. What’s the appropriate way to end this relationship?
A: This is always difficult, but if you feel you must explain your departure you can stop by or call and say that you are going to be going somewhere else, for a change; that you appreciate the time you’ve been with her and wish her well. If she questions you, then tell her what you’ve just told me – that you feel you need to try someone else who can give you a new look and respond to your suggestions. It is not unusual for people to make a change and that is simply the way of business. Your option is to just stop going. It is doubtful that she will call and demand to know where you are, and if you eventually elect to return it is also likely that she would simply welcome you back. Although you have a long-time “relationship,” it is also the way of business that people make changes and move on, so a direct explanation is not really essential unless it is for your conscience or personal feelings.