1. Dee Dudley

    I have hosted a gathering for years on Christmas Day and have had my step sister and 8 members of her family. I have not heard anything from her all year. Her 86 year old mother has been married to my 86 year old father for 32 years. In the past, I have initiated communication with her several times during the year, concerning our parents. I don’t want to be with her and her family this year because I feel she has not made the effort to communicate with me like she should. This may hurt my Father for me to break this tradition and not have the traditional Holiday gathering with them. What should I do?

  2. Jody

    If you’ve hosted the Christmas gathering for years, your stepsister may just be assuming you’re going to do it as usual. I suggest you let her know (phone call, e-mail, however you normally communicate) what plans are for this Christmas. What I’m not clear on is whether you’re going to invite your parents but not your stepsister and family, or whether you’re not going to have a gathering at all. The former is a bit touchier, but you could let her know you’re keeping the gathering very small this year and aren’t able to have as large a group.

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