Q:We are invited to a holiday party. The invitations were sent out by email. In the invitation/email , it states that the couple hosting the party would like all guests to bring specific items – such as specific food – and all liquor. They even state that the liquor and food are to picked up at a certain store.
Should this couple request everyone furnish their holiday party – especially telling people to pick up ‘cases’ of alcohol and lots of food (the store mentioned only sells BULK items)? It seems like the only thing they are handling is ‘having it at their home’ – everything else will be supplied.
Is this correct etiquette to request this of your guests?
A: No, it isn’t. The couple issuing the invitations are the party’s hosts. As such, they are expected to provide all food and beverages. It would be fine for them to host a potluck dinner where guests are expected to provide a dish and also their preference in beverages aside from basic non-alcoholic beverages (such as water, soda, juice, coffee, and/or tea, etc.). The hosts may even requested a certain type of dish such as an appetizer, salad, dessert, etc. but nothing more specific than that. However, it would be inappropriate for the hosts to specify where the food and/or beverages should be purchased.