A: Your mom is right that one never used to wear black to weddings, but this rule has changed and it now is fine, particularly for a late day, early evening wedding. You still endeavor not to wear white or ivory which are traditionally reserved for the bride. The key here is not to look too somber, wear a bright scarf or something else to prevent a funerary look.
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