Poll 26: To Friend or not to Friend

by EPI Staff on October 3, 2011

As Facebook gets more and more popular, so does the etiquette that surrounds it.

Is it rude to ignore a friend request on Facebook from someone you know?

  • No, if you don't want to, you don't have to be friends. (83%, 133 Votes)
  • Yes, their feelings may be hurt if you deny them. (17%, 28 Votes)

Total Voters: 161

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Please feel free to expand on this poll in the comments section below.

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polite punk October 4, 2011 at 9:42 pm

I have created a wide level of privacy settings for various friends. My very close friends see everything that is on my facebook, my family and other friends see a little bit less, and work colleagues (especially people that I meet at networking events who send me friends requests) see the bare minimum.

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Percephone October 8, 2011 at 7:22 am

As polite punk points out, you can adjust the privacy settings for different people. So, I don’t believe there’s any excuse for ignoring someone’s request (unless you’ve had some kind of falling out).

If you know in advance that there are people you don’t want to be friends with, block them before they can find you or use an alias so they can’t. There are lots of ways to go about avoiding someone without openly rejecting them.

Ignoring someone’s request will damage the relationship and make things awkward between the two of you. It will also cause them to question your sincerity if you have been friendly in person.

Avoid rejecting as much as possible. In my opinion, the attitude of not having to be friends if you don’t want shows a complete disregard for others’ feelings.

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sensible civility October 31, 2011 at 10:10 pm

Yes, you can change your privacy settings & you’re fooling yourself if you think people won’t notice they aren’t allowed to see anything on your profile even though you accepted them as a friend. Personally, I’d rather be real & honest by not accepting their request in the first place than accept them & keep them from seeing anything. That’s like inviting someone to a party at your home, then making them sit out on the front porch while everyone else enjoys the party inside. Very tacky!

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Percephone September 20, 2012 at 8:23 am

But it’s most likely that they won’t know that you’ve restricted them and not others. Some people have limited privacy for all their friends simply because they’re private people. The only time I’d worry about them knowing you’ve limited what *they* can see is if your friends are in a close environment and may see each other browsing Facebook, for instance at university or school.

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