Q: My 12-year-old daughter wasn’t invited to her classmate’s Halloween party. She’s really hurt, because she thought they were friends. Is it OK for me to intervene? If so, what should I do?
A: Tempting as it is, don’t do it. Instead, talk to her about her feelings- and listen. If she wants to approach the host, help her role-play what to say. Maybe she’ll learn the party was only for the swim team. If she was left out intentionally, it’s an important, albeit painful, lesson about her friend.