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by epi on October 28, 2011

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Debbie October 29, 2011 at 11:41 am

We sent out email invitations for a party to celebrate my mom’s 80th birthday. We didn’t even think about whether or not she’d want children to come so the invites were very general. Someone has asked if they can bring their two kids and after careful consideration, my mom has decided she really doesn’t want kids there, only the adults. Now what do we do?

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Elizabeth October 30, 2011 at 7:25 pm

What kind of kids are we talking about here – toddlers, or the teenage or grown children of your friends? If it’s very young children you’re talking about, you can easily say “I’m sorry, Friend, but the party has become something that we no longer feel comfortable having children at, as it’s late at night and alcohol will be served.” But, if it’s older children, I think you just suck it up and let them come.

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Winifred Rosenburg October 30, 2011 at 9:16 pm

I’m not really sure what you mean by wording the invitations general. The names that are on the invitation are the people invited. If you wrote Mr. and Mrs. Smith you can say no to the children. If you wrote Mr. and Mrs. Smith and family, it’s implied that they can bring their kids.

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Elizabeth October 30, 2011 at 10:13 pm

The OP said they were email invitations, and were probably emailed to one member of the family and not explicit about who was and was not invited.

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