Q: My wife and I had argument last night while dining out. She placed her napkin (paper) on top of her plate when she had finished her dinner. I said it should be placed beside the plate. Placing one’s napkin besides the plate is all that I have ever heard or been told to do. Her argument is that it is preferable to put the napkin on your plate not the table. Could you explain this? Is there any place that this would be acceptable, other than a BBQ on paper plates that you are abut to discard.
A: You are correct. The napkin, whether paper or cloth, is placed to the left of the place setting when you are finished and about to leave the table.