Q: Can you invite people to the bridal shower if they are not invited to the wedding? If not, is there a way to invite them and let them know they can’t come to the wedding? There are just so many people but I would think that they would want to be included where they can.
A: The rule is that only those invited to the wedding should be invited to a shower. Remember that the best showers are smaller and more intimate, with the guest list comprised of those truly close to the bride and/or the groom. They are not for every single wedding guest to have to attend. There is not a way to tell people they are okay to come to a shower but not to the wedding. It would hurt their feelings.