Q: My mother-in-law wanted to invite some of her friends to a baby shower being held for me. I thought she would invite some of her friends that I am well acquainted with, but actually she wants to invite some people that I don’t even know. When I spoke with her about this, she was sure that some of her friends would feel left out if not invited and that I did know all these people (which I really don’t). What should I do?
A: Be firm and tell her it would embarrass you to have people you don’t even know giving you gifts. Tell her there will be other opportunities for her to entertain them, that you are sure they won’t feel left out, and that you for sure would be highly uncomfortable. Hopefully, she will respect your feelings.