Q: What ever happened to a good old-fashioned “thank you”? My mother taught me as a young girl to always to say thank you. Either in person or over the phone. When I got older, I started sending thank you cards. Now that I’m a mother, I am teaching my daughter to do the same. But I can’t tell you how many birthday parties she has attended where no thank you was ever recieved. Have we become so busy that we don’t have time to send or even say “thank you”? It’s not just the children, it’s also adults. She has never even gotten a thank you card from her school teachers she has given special gifts. Am I just too old fashioned?
A: No, you are not old fashioned. The general rule is that when you give a gift and the recipient opens it in front of you and thanks you at that time, no follow-up thank you is required, except for wedding and shower gifts. If you have sent a gift, or if the gift is opened at another time, then the recipient should call or write to express his/her thanks.