Generous Parents: How many wedding gifts are necessary

by epi on August 16, 2011

Q: We are going to pay for our daughter’s wedding this June. We also just gave her and her fiancee a sizable amount of money for their house. Are we still expected to give them a wedding gift? I’m not sure what is appropriate. Just so you know I also gave my daughter her bridal shower.

A: No, you aren’t expected to give your daughter and her fiancé a wedding gift.  It’s not uncommon for the bride’s parents’ gift to the couple to be paying for the wedding.  Many would consider the fact that you’ve also given a sizable contribution to their house fund a very generous wedding gift in itself.  Of course, you may give them an additional gift if you would like, but it is really your choice.

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R. August 18, 2011 at 1:58 pm

When my husband and I were married, some of our parents gave us modest gifts in addition to sizable checks intended to help us pay for our wedding. Because I am very sentimental about family, these gifts are treasured! I bet even a modest gift, like a frame, would be a treasured keepsake for your daughter.


Erica August 18, 2011 at 9:57 pm

My parents gave us a sentimental, but not expensive, gift for our wedding. We’re Irish and Catholic so they gave us a lovely celtic cross that hangs in our house. Perhaps there is a religious emblem or some other sentimental item you could give your daughter and son-in-law as their “official” gift? If you would prefer to be more practical, offering to complete the incomplete sets of registry items (flatware, tableware, etc) is always appreciated.


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