Q: One of the children in my school carpool group is always late. Should I speak to the child’s parents about the issue or ask the child to tell his mom that he must be earlier?
A: Call the parents and appeal to their sense of fairness: “I hate to bring this up, but when your son is late, it messes the other kids up, too. Can you please get him to the carpool on time? If not, you may need to find another carpool, and we really don’t want that to happen.”