1. Jody

    I’m speaking as somebody who usually e-mails rather than calls back, and raising other possible scenarios.

    Maybe your requests to call you come an an inopportune time for your friend. Rather than leave you wondering whether she received your message, she texts you to give you an answer right away.

    In your messages to your friend, do you say specifically what you want, or when you’d like her to call you? I get several messages where the person says “this is so-and-so, give me a call” with no hint of what the person is calling about. If the person doesn’t say what they want, or say the call is time-sensitive, I assume it’s not important and don’t return the call right away (especially if I’m busy).

    • Andrea

      I think a telephone call should be returned regardless of the topic! Since when are we required to leave such information on voicemail?

  2. rebecca

    This drives me nuts. Text messaging is for relaying short bits of information, not the way to have a conversation, in my opinion.

  3. Zarafury

    I have always disliked talking on the phone. If I can get away with a text in return, I will. I’m not trying to be rude, but I am avoiding that particular medium. I don’t think telephone conversations (especially ones over shaky cellular connections, and I didn’t even have a land line for years) are inherently more polite than texts or email.

    Though I dislike talking on the phone, I absolutely despise checking my voice mail. If someone seems to be a text message enthusiast, meet her on her level. When she doesn’t pick up, send a text instead of a voice message. They are much easier to check.

    If there needs to be a conversation, by all means ask “Can I give you a call right now?” when the reply comes.

  4. Lilli

    What’s worked for me to get my friends to call me back is to say “I’m sorry, but if we need to have a conversation beyond ‘I’m running late – be there in 5 minutes’ can you please call me? I have a limited number of text messages included with my cellular plan and when you send me 20 texts a day I go over my limit and start getting charged a lot.” I have other friends that have used this tactic as well, and not only are we getting more return phone calls, but because we really do have limited text plans, we’re saving money on the overages! (And yes, I’m aware that for an extra $10/month I could get unlimited texts, but I also despise texting and I’m not wasting my money on something I hate just because other people are too rude/lazy to return a telephone call).

    • Andrea

      I completely agree with Lilli. Text messaging should be limited to brief messaging – not conversations! I’m not the long-winded type, but lay off the thumb work and get together for a walk and talk.

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